For parents only: Is is easy to raise a family?
I’ve read a poem by Linda Pastan called “To A Daughter Leaving Home”. And we have to relate to these different poems so I chose that one. And I said all this stuff about how I want to raise a family but I’m blocked. And I’m really worried. I basically fast-fowarded my life to after my wedding to my daughters being born, and all throughout there high school life, and then when I got to their weddings, and then my death bed. And when I’m relly old and sick, I said that I would’ve learned a huge life-lesson that raising a family is the best thing I’ve ever done. But I’m sure that won’t be the best thing I’m ever going to do. I’m going to start college next fall and I’m worried about what my life will be like with a wife and daughters and son-in-laws. I’m really looking for some support and help. So to you parent out there, is it really easy? I even said that when my wife is in labor that I’ll be in the waiting room because I’d pass out looking at my baby being born.
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7 comments
Kathleen on February 9, 2010 at 9:10 pm
Well as a mother of 3 I can tell you it isn’t always easy and yes sometimes it is scary to raise a family. However there are little things that make it all worth it things like being there and sharing in the moment your child comes into the world, the child you helped create out of love. Seeing your child’s first steps and the first time your child calls you mommy or daddy. The first are always the most special times it’s also the first that lead to growing more independent and away from you. Which is a good thing because then you’ve done your job. No one I ever knew was ready to deal with everything life throws at you when you raise a child but you manage the best you can you give them guidance, love, affection and attention you provide them with morals and you listen to them, and then see if they listened and learned from you. If they did and you did your job well they become people whom you are proud to say this is my child.
crazicowgirl on February 9, 2010 at 9:57 pm
to be honest – no – it’s not easy. the needs of the children fall to you. it is a road of ups and downs but to me it is well worth the trip.
GLSigma3 on February 9, 2010 at 10:46 pm
Yes, I admit I’m not a parent, but as a child I can tell you it’s not easy to raise a family. Ask your parents if it was easy to raise you.
barthebear on February 9, 2010 at 11:14 pm
It is without a doubt the most difficult thing anyone can do if they do it right! It is expensive, self-sacrificing,unforgiving, relentless, tiring,mentally challenging and exhausting. It therefore is not for everyone and fortunately people are thinking twice before going into it. It used to be expected and sort of an ego booster to reproduce.Best of luck in your decision making and Congratulations for contemplating and taking your assignment seriously!!
hasdad62 on February 9, 2010 at 11:57 pm
No its not easy. I feel like i have been a dad my whole life! My son was born when i was 22. I’m now 44. Nothing about raising kids is easy, but there are little things that let you know you are doing a good job. My oldest daughter invited her mom to New Jersey this month, she got back yesterday. they had a blast! I drove a truck for 13 years till I lost my right leg to diabetes. But i wouldn’t trade my life for anything. I feel like the luckiest guy in the world, sometimes. They may not always show it, but they do appreciate us! Keep up the good, hard work>
rencar32002 on February 10, 2010 at 12:42 am
I’m going to be honest. It is not easy to raise a family. It will be THE hardest job in the world, but it is also THE most rewarding. It helps to be educated and have a stable job. Being prepared helps and having a healthy relationship with your spouse is a plus. Life isn’t perfect but having some of this is a step in the right direction. I hope that as time goes by and when you are ready for a family, instead of being in the waiting room you are in the labor room with your spouse. Seeing your children born is what triggers you to work harder in everything that you do. It gives you the drive to be a better parent, spouse and person. Being close to your spouse and children will make the job as parent better. But when you put your mind and your hard work together and into your family you will never be able imagine life without them. It is a unique feeling and I wish you the best of luck in your life now and in the future. So that you will be able to have a great family experience, may you have great health and success. Best wishes.
northernlamb on February 10, 2010 at 1:00 am
Sounds like you are getting scared about the future.
I think it is wonderful that you are going to college and plan on having a good career but honestly if a family is in your future that is the greatest gift that you could ever have. Not having anyone to share life’s ups and downs is a very lonely thing.
You can learn so many things from a wife and children and they will enrich your life beyond measure.
Of course it won’t be a cakewalk but every trial is more than worth it.
Trust me I know what I am talking about.